Becoming Mummy!

We all have a different story, we all have different beliefs, we all lead different lives yet some of us embark on the same journey of parenthood. My first time becoming mum was not your usual experience, I found myself in love with now hubby, we went on holiday to Spain and then surprise, surprise two lines appeared a month later on a pregnancy test! This was a shock yet we were both really happy, I was terrified of telling my Catholic parents of the news as me and now hubby were not even living together let alone discussing marriage! This was the first time I realised "Wow, this is MY news, this is MY story now!". My parents were over the moon for us and could not wait to have another grandchild to run around with the already 5 of them. 

  This pregnancy started with lots of sickness, lots of tiredness and I am sure you can relate to the moods! I developed a rash all over my face so I repeatedly went back to the GP and each time failed to get an answer as to what was going on in my body. Some people may relate to this statement, when I say 'we as women know our bodies better than anyone, even the top doctors.' At 23 weeks gestation I was in work as usual and I had these awful stomach pains, as if I had eaten a dodgy kebab the night before! I ran to the loo back and forth back and forth, holding my stomach trying to hold in what I thought was a case of the sh***. One of my elder sisters said to me, you look like you are in labour! I called the local hospital where I was taken into the labour ward. They sent me for a scan and everything seemed ok, there was little one on the screen moving away. I was then told I had a water infection which I believed coming from a doctor!

  At this point my now hubby and I were not talking, we were in a really bad place, he had not grown up, still drinking with mates and just could not be the committed boyfriend / dad to be I expected, as you will get to know I do not take shit from people messing around! 

A substitute doctor was walking past my cubicle (where I was surrounded by both parents and two sisters!) He said to me I was having contractions add I needed to get to the nearest hospital where I could deliver a baby at 23 weeks! I was in disbelief and laughed! No way was I having a baby now! I hadn't even bought the cot yet! My now hubby was called and the next minute off I went in a wheel chair to an ambulance where the man accompanying me was AMAZIG at reassuring me... the nurse, with no notes or any info on me NOT SO MUCH! I arrived at the specialist hospital in the North of the UK where I was sent to my room and greeted by a wonderful older lady! The evening my waters broke and lots of tests were taken and this carried on for the two days! Throughout all of this the one love that we all take for granted was my sister! She stayed up the whole time holding onto my hand! She would not leave my side! This type of love is just not given enough thought, siblings are a gift we should cherish like diamonds! 

The next day I was taken around a neo-natal ward... This was not where my baby was going to be born , they had it all wrong! My baby is not going to be attached to a machine what was all the fuss about?? Did they even know what they were talking about? 

That evening the nurse I did not like took me back to my room... I demanded to speak to the doctor several times before she let me speak to him and he was going to move me to the general ward as not much was happening. The annoying nurse left and the lovely nurse came back.... That was it!!! I went into full blown labour as if I was waiting for this lovely ladies return where I felt safe! My elder sister was with me, my younger sister hiding behind the curtain and hubby to be hiding in the corridor with his head between his hands! It was all systems go!!! An incubator was rushed in, the doctors all rushed in and then it happened!! SPLATT!!! blood and I do not know what else flew out of me.... the doctor dodged it completely and carried on. Baby was delivered with a broken arm and then the placenta went back in, the next thing a fist went up and 'NOOOOOOOOOOO GEMMMMMAAAA' came from my mouth! I didn't even know I knew her name! She saved my life!!! 

The pain left and I turned to the doctor and said what did I have Doctor? He looked at me as if I was an Alien and said 'A baby!'

Mine, my hubby to be and both sisters lives had changed forever!

I had become a MUM, the greatest, hardest, challenging, most rewarding title to achieve on this planet!

My heart was full!

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